The instructions in the Bible on how to treat each other, especially an elder becomes very appropriate advice for all who are seeking to maintain a happy marriage. Whenever problems arise it is important to approach the other person with genuine questions and to entreat them instead of rebuking or scolding. It is a good principle to always remember that when approaching your spouse that you are not trying to end the relationship, but instead to restore the relationship to a happy state. Do not making railing (complain angrily) statements to your spouse that will lead to emotional barriers, but rather deal kindly and patiently.
1 Timothy5:1 Rebuke not an elder, but entreat [him] as a father; [and] the younger men as brethren;
5:2 The elder women as mothers; the younger as sisters, with all purity.
5:3 Honour widows that are widows indeed.
1 Peter 3:8 Finally, [be ye] all of one mind, having compassion one of another, love as brethren, [be] pitiful, [be] courteous: 3:9 Not rendering evil for evil, or railing for railing: but contrariwise blessing; knowing that ye are thereunto called, that ye should inherit a blessing. 3:10 For he that will love life, and see good days, let him refrain his tongue from evil, and his lips that they speak no guile: 3:11 Let him eschew evil, and do good; let him seek peace, and ensue it.